Firstly, congratulations on having chosen a partner to spend your life with. That is, by far, the toughest aspect of the whole wedding business.
Whenever you feel the jitters of having to plan a big ol’ wedding, just think about how you got your soul-mate. Then the whole process should seem like a simple cakewalk in comparison.
Nah, just kidding.
Planning a wedding is not an easy job. Of course, that depends on the kind of wedding you want to have. If you are okay with the generic, boring sort of wedding most people have, then it’s not a tough affair at all. All you need to do is hire an expensive wedding planner and voila! You’ll have a well-organized wedding albeit sans any personality.
If you want the sort of wedding that is actually meaningful, as in, it reflects the personalities of you and your other half, then I suggest that you do most of the planning on your own. Start a couple of months in advance, and figure out all the details like venue, guest list, menu, music, attire, etc.
Oops! Sorry, I’m getting ahead of myself here. All of the other stuff comes after you have figured out exactly what sort of a wedding you want – a big, crazy fun affair or a minimalistic, quieter, more intimate sort of wedding.
Depends on what sort of a person you are, actually!
Okay, so let me help you out a bit.
Think about this. Do you like neon twinkly lights in a brightly lit, gorgeously decorated, lavish hotel? Do you like sparkly firecrackers going off in the sky, announcing the ‘Who weds whom’? Is your wedding attire going to be in a gorgeous shade of crimson? Is the music going to be the greatest dance hits of the past ten years? Do you see people being all noisy there?
Laughing, shouting, dancing, just loosening up and having fun? Do you see yourself on the dance floor? Having a fun day? If you do, then you are cut out for the big, lavish wedding with a lot of people around you, having a great time among everybody because you are such a people person!
But if you are hunting feverishly in your drawer for an aspirin after reading all this, then you definitely are not cut out for a big fat wedding.
Think about it.
Do you see your wedding ceremony happening in a flower decked garden, with low, muted golden lights and Vivaldi’s Four Seasons playing softly in the background? Do you see yourself surrounded by just a handful of people—people you have known all your lives; people you are very, very close with.
Do you see yourself dressed in a pastel colored, non-fussy outfit with just simple diamond jewellery, and a rose or two in your hair for your only ornaments?
Do you see a small, laid-back, quiet affair with just your closest family members and friends…the kind of wedding where there is just no loud music or feverish dancing, but just lots of good food and wine, and great conversation? Then you should go for a small, intimate wedding affair where you are comfortable around the small number of people you invite.
This was just a broad categorization of people. People fall in between these two extremes I’ve described here. So take the time to figure out the magnitude of your wedding that you would be comfortable with.
There is no need to feel obligated to invite every person in your acquaintance. Invite people you know you can relax with.
Just have fun! After all, it’s your special day!